I have been away from home for a few months now..Kenya,to be precise .I come from a close knit family so we have all tried to curb the distance with video calls, a few visits in the 8 months we have been here ..people around me still don’t understand how my dad traveled 20 hrs to see us only to go back two days later for another 2o hr journey .
Vibrance /love of African people
You realize how cold the western world is ..and no I’m not talking about racism or such ..but you realize how people don’t really have support systems and a sense of community..I mean our people ..we love each other. It’s not uncommon to show up at your friend’s house randomly “for tea” just because you want to check up on them ..or the usual..
“Hey how are you?”
“I’m good!.Its been a while! “
“Where are you?”
“I’m in the house”
“Ooh okay ..open the door ..”
I mean this has been so normal from the time you start going to your friends house to ask their mom if they can come out to play till now ..
Well, you will DEFINITELY miss that!
Borders of Africa and tribal differences dissolve
It doesn’t matter if Kenya has 42 tribes (one is going extinct btw) or that Nigeria has a whooping 300 tribes ..it doesn’t matter if you’re from the east, west or south of Africa ( I left out the north because that’s a whole conversation on its own )
The minute you see another African person at work, in class or just walking in the street ..you recognize each other ..even with a small smile or a head nod ..all those boundaries and what made you different completely dissolves..out here you’re just “our people”
Food doesn’t taste the same
Yoh! I came here ate an orange and my heart SANK! I mean to the depths of hell sinking …please be careful where you go buy your freshly made juice too *sobs in hunger *
The mangos don’t have the tropical taste they should …the sour fruits aren’t a beautiful mix of sweet and sour ..the really sweet fruits aren’t sweet enough ..also what is wrong with your BANANAS people ?! Fruits are sooo bland ..don’t get me started on the spices ..
The minute I got home after three months here ..I came back with a host ..and I mean a HOST of spices ( I declared them though..abide by the law (Also I’m not about the fine paying life ) because I was not about to put nutmeg on my hot chocolate that tasted like undertones of nutmeg😑
The adjusting process is hard
Missing your family ..unfamiliar territory ..different systems (public transport had me getting lost all the time!)
It gets a bit lonely at first .I am so lucky that I had my sister with me but I know that a lot of people do this on their own. Adjusting to the time difference in the first few days can be a bit hard as well ..Not seeing enough people who look like you ..I never understood what being a minority is till I got here ..unnecessary stares from people (yes I’m magic I know ..keep looking ..okay that’s enough Susan ..I might blind you ..keep walking )
The weather is soo different
People who live in the Equatorial region get me .I mean Kenya’s weather has to be the perfect weather. Now I get the cradle of mankind story ..where else would the first creatures want to be? First things first..we don’t have drastic seasons .its beautiful weather all year round even when it’s cold weather ..the sun comes up to bless our melanin during the day and usually rains during night time.. WTF is winter though ? Who is it for 😭what is the purpose of this cold …I have soo many questions..and the heat in summer ..I mean why is the sun here soo angry ..dear lord I miss African sunsets!
But hey! There’s soo much positive experiences and joy you find once you settle down and get used to the place because every place has something new to offer!
And the friends you make ..the people you meet ..it makes life soo interesting!